As most of you have learned by now, I’ve recently been widowed a second time in less than six years. You can read a little more about that here. Additionally, over the last year, my husband and I were privileged to adopt three beautiful Bulgarian children and one adorable little boy from the local foster system. In addition to our 5 older biological children (ages 16, 20, 21, 25, and 27), our youngest children (3 boys and a girl) are ages 3, 6, 7, and 8. Two have diagnosed special needs, and one is suspect for special needs. As you can only imagine, our needs are GREAT!
Prayer is our number one need, and I don’t make that request lightly. Additionally, the following are other tangible ways you can serve our family. Several have been suggested or set up by friends, and they’ve been HUGE helps during this time period where access to regular income is inconsistent, at best. Others are simple ways to some of you that would offer significant service to us.
Just an FYI…This is COMPLETELY out of my comfort zone (asking for help that is), and I’m almost embarrassed to do it, but God is working with me on that sin of pride, so I’m trying to do what I feel He’s given me permission to do.
GoFundMe: Simply click on the link here and follow the steps to make a donation of any amount. This is has been a significant tool in helping to keep us afloat since Joel went to Heaven on February 12.
Paypal: You can also click here and send a donation to my Paypal account using the Friends and Family feature (to avoid any fees). My Paypal account is email@example.com
Gift via check: We’ve received several gifts by check, and I’m happy to pass along my address if you don’t have it. Just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org to request the address please.
Meal Train Plus: Besides signing up for meals, there this program also offers a way for people to donate money, and a couple folks have already discovered how that works and send financial donations that way. We have received them, so I can attest to the validity of that part of the program. Just click here to access our family’s page.
Gift cards: This has been a HUGE blessing so far. We’ve received gift cards from all over…gas, restaurants, VISA, grocery, and even some for a movie outing. God knows our needs…just allow Him to guide.
Cards: I can think of no better encouragement than to receive a hand-written card in the mail. That is truly one of my love-languages. I’m happy to share our address if you send me an email asking for it please: email@example.com
Rescued and Restored – This is the book I published that came out in June, 2016 that chronicled that first year of widowed following my first time as a widow. Little did I know then that less than a year after that book came out, I’d be walking a similar path. While it doesn’t pay much, each time someone purchases it or the Kindle version, I get a little royalty. Every little bit helps. You can find it here!
Some fun things to do with the kids: We’ve had a gift of mini golf that’ll we using soon, but anything you can think of that might be a nice little outing to do with the kids. If it’s something major (i.e. Carowinds), please know I can’t handle all 4 littles on my own in a big place like that and an adult or mature teenage helper would need to be factored in. (I can find the helper…just need that factored into ticket counts.) If God has blessed you with the ability to give fun gifts on a more expensive scale, something that’s close to us but would be a HUGE blessing to the kids (and me) would maybe be a weekend at The Great Wolf Lodge. Again, these are just ideas that friends have suggested, so I thought I would include them. We are walking through new, unexpected territory, so it doesn’t take much to put a smile on our face when it comes to someone blessing our family. We consider EVERY blessing a HUGE blessing from God Himself!
Handy-man type things around the house: We have work (some possibly fairly significant) that could involve a plumber, electrician, carpenter, and painter. We also have simpler jobs that just involve hanging pictures, etc. (although painting needs to be completed first). Update: many of these things are being tackled already, but there seems to be a never-ending list, so feel free to volunteer to serve in this capacity if you feel so led.
Yard work: This was Joel’s gift – not mine. I can hop on the John Deere and figure it out, but I would love someone to show me what weeds need to pull or if they are plants that will simply bloom again. I really am that bad outdoors but appreciate the absolute beauty of a home with curb appeal. This has been completely covered for this upcoming season!
Handmade gifts to honor Joel: Another love language of mine. Some of you are so gifted and talented and have already offered to make things for us to honor that sweet man of mine…jewelry, memory quilt, portrait painting, shadow boxes, prayer shawl, pillows from some of his shirts, etc. We welcome any and all ideas in this category!!!
Respite care for mommy: Some precious friends came over one evening and watched my kiddos for a few hours so I could get out for some “me time”. As an introvert…this is how I re-energize, so that was HUGE!!! I obviously can’t just take a complete stranger in to do something like this, but I know some of you have already hinted at this, and we can talk further.
House cleaning: We’ve already been gifted one house cleaning, and that was HUGE! That would certainly be welcomed again! A schedule for this is already being taken care of along with the volunteers!
Massage/mani-pedi/spa day: This sounds so trivial, but when your whole world falls apart, and the love of your life is suddenly gone…you no longer have someone reminding you of your beauty and worth. Sometimes…a little pampering can go a long way!
Amazon Shoppers – I know many of you shop on Amazon. If you do, would you consider using my referral link…just click HERE and shop for whatever you need? It’s just another small way I can earn a few pennies, and they add up over time.
We are being well taken care of in the food category, so we don’t have a need there at this point.
That’s what I can think of right now. I’ll tweak the list as things are handled or if something else needs be added. But, here’s a way to start if you feel led to help a twice-widowed woman and her former orphans.